It's been a little while since I've written anything, but I think that that's a good thing. I'm finally settled in here, and my every-day stories no longer seem like disconnected anecdotes about living as a foreigner, it's just my life. I wouldn't say that the transition to this point was especially hard - I never had any of the "oh shit" moments I half-anticipated. But I can definitely tell a difference between how I feel now and my experience living here the first few weeks. It costs me a little trying to come up with what to say now, since everything seems pretty much normal, but I'll do my best to give a sketch of what I do in la vida cotidiana:
I go to school:
Gracias a Dios, our Spanish intensivo class came to an end just before we went to el DF. Four hours of grammar instruction each day became tedious quickly, not to mention that the class was painfully easy. After 60 hours of class time, I can say with confidence that I now know the difference between
aun and
aún,
esta, ésta and
está, and I am able to call people names like snob, nerd, and lame when appropriate (
fresa, ñoño y huevon - this was one of our most interesting and useful lessons). Needless to say, I was more than glad to move on to our second session of classes. I am now taking Sociology of Oaxaca and Mexican History. My schedule is stacked such that I have both of these classes on Tuesday and Thursday, meaning I have six consecutive hours of class on those days, and a 5-day weekend for the remainder of the week. Really though, it's not as luxurious as it sounds. Both the classes are reading-intensive, and I spend a good amount of time on Mondays and Wednesdays preparing for class. Besides the fact that they present a break from straight-up dry grammar instruction, I am enjoying the classes a lot, especially in conjunction with one another. I feel like I am getting a fairly encompassing education on Mexico's past and present, which, as I've stated previously, is something I see as very important to traveling conscientiously. Most of the other kids opted out of taking the history class - in fact, there are only three of us in the class - because they would rather learn about more "current" (read: relevant) issues. However, I find the class to be the perfect complement to my sociology course, as it gives me the context to understand how the current social and political situations came to be. But back to the fact that I'm in a class of three students. It is certainly a different learning experience, and more than ever before, we are held accountable for learning the material, since you can't just hide behind the rest of the class if you don't finish the reading before a lecture. We also have the opportunity to do some cooler stuff as such a small group - today we walked downtown and got a personal tour of the main cathedral's 500-year-old library and got up-close and personal with some of the manuscripts created during the period of Mexico's independence. Our professor is an adorable old man called Paco Pepe who is clearly enthusiastic about his subject, and despite the fact that he seems to have little concept of time (class frequently gets out 15-30 minutes late), we enjoy every second we have to chat with him. Call me a
huevona, but I am enjoying our transition to more serious school mode.
I hang out with the family:
Two weeks ago, by the grace of some mysterious force, Emma and Manuel's grandchildren decided that they LOVE me. Not that they disliked me before, they were always just kind of shy. But two weeks ago, Regina, the youngest at 3 years, invited me to a tea party, and now we are bff's. Regi's spontaneous acceptance of me spurred interest in the older boys (ages 6-11), who soon invited me into their various roughhousing pass times. Now, I can hardly sneak a moment to myself when I'm home during the day, as Regi knocks on my door every 10 minutes and doesn't take "I'm doing homework" for an answer. The majority of my time at home is now spent hunting butterflies and playing dodgeball - I know, it's a rough life. I always felt welcome in Emma's home, but I'm starting to feel like one of the family, which I love, and don't take for granted for one second. Last week, my friend Jennifer's Oaxacan host mother passed away, which has shaken everyone up a bit. It did help me realize how important my family here is to me. Even though I don't have siblings my own age to hang out with, I adore talking with Emma and Manuel, and their grandchildren make me laugh on a daily basis. Even though I'd sometimes prefer a siesta over an imaginary tea-party, I wouldn't change my living situation for anything.
I dance:
I finally took my salsa moves public a few weeks ago, and now I'm hooked. Every Thursday there is a live band at the local salsa hot-spot Candelas, and admission is reduced - double bonus. While our salsa class we took the first few weeks here was a little boring with only four male partners for the 15 women to share, I have no difficulty in finding a partner at Candelas. In fact, it's hard to convince some of the guys I need a break after sweating out several songs in a row. I was pleasantly surprised with how well my classroom skills translated to the club, but things got a little tricky when non-salsa songs came on. Merengue? Check. I remember it from Panamá, and besides that it's pretty self-explanatory. Cumbia? So-so. The rhythm is the same as salsa, but the steps are a little different and I never formally learned them, so I stumbled through the first few songs, but I think I might have it down by now. Bachata? Disastrous. It's completely different from the other rhythms, and as I quickly learned, there is no faking it. I'll admit that after my first disastrous bachata experience in which I'm sure my partner regretted inviting me onto the floor, I did give myself a youtube crash-course on the basic steps. Here's hoping things go more smoothly next time around!
I get called "guera:"
Guera: Meaning someone with fair hair/complexion, debatably less offensive than the word "gringo." While this word can be applied normally to Mexicans with a lighter complexion, the way in which it is used about (or more appropriately, at) my fellow travelers and myself isn't generally so innocent. Appearance-wise, I am about as far from the typical Mexican as you can get. My blonde hair, "refrigerated" skin as it was once called here, and 5'10" stature garner me a lot of unsolicited attention. As such, I am called "guera" by strangers a minimum of 10 times per day (a conservative estimate). The majority of the guera comments are made by relatively harmless but big-mouthed men, and are accompanied by statements like "get in my taxi, guera," "share your money, guera," "I loooooove you, my beautiful guera," or the oh-so-original "no quieres mi salchicha, guera?" from just about every taco cart man on the street. Sorry guys, but calling me guera and winking doesn't get my interest that easily. The worst of the guera moments happened last week, when Becca, Bradia and I were followed by a guera-hissing car for a few blocks as they walked me home one night. Usually comments are less threatening and overall pretty harmless, but it bothers me that this is such a normal part of life here.
I eat:
(A lot). One of the most pleasurable, but least productive pass-times here. Once I learned to carefully navigate around some of Oaxaca's less-appealing dishes (I finally told my family that I hate eggs. Nobody was offended, and breakfast has been a lot more pleasant since then), I learned that the culinary offerings here are delightfully endless. Mangoes, taco cart confections, and esquites (cups of corn/corn water, lime, chili salt and Oaxacan cheese - better than it might sound) are some of the favorite items found on the street. Our professor Monica also introduced us to a hidden Irish pub in town, so Guinness has also become a regular part of our diet here. Maybe not the most Mexican item on the menu, but hard to turn down. Thank goodness PLU/UPS give us a monthly dinner stipend, or my bank account would be draining alarmingly quickly.
And finally... I travel:
I'll save my travel stories for another day, but this month is full of exciting excursions (say that 10 times in a row). The past two weekends were spent in the mostly indigenous town Teotitlan del Valle, where I learned a lot about rural life here and picked up a few phrases in one of the many Zapoteca dialects (on a side note, if you are ever interested in learning about indigenous Oaxacan life and migration patterns because you are a freak like me, I recommend the book
Transborder Lives by Lynn Stephen. Read it for a sociology class last year, and it is proving to be extremely relevant these days). This weekend I'm heading back to Mexico City with a few friends to do everything we were unable to on our hyper-scheduled Witness for Peace trip, and the weekend after that the group is headed to the beach. This doesn't leave a lot of spare time on the weekends, but I love getting to know some of the spots outside of Oaxaca.
And that is my life in a nutshell. I feel comfortable here. It's hard to believe that my time in Mexico is nearly half way over, but that's a thought I try to push out of my mind. Instead, I'm just finding ways to make the most of my time, not a hard task at all. That sounds pretty trite, I know, but it's the truth.